MaterialsIf your wife or girlfriend

Materials
If your wife or girlfriend is a bondage virgin, choose your materials very carefully. You want things to be as soft and as light as possible for her first time. Therefore the best possible option is anything made of silk. If you don't have silk or something similar, cotton is probably your next best bet. Cotton is soft, breathable, and cheap (and it won't make the cashier at the hardware store give you funny looks).

Hemp rope is safe when used wisely, but it also chafes. If you're stuck with using hemp or other rough materials, be sure to only use loose ties for her first time.

Leather and rubber products can be quite safe and comfortable, but they're also intimidating for a first-timer. Probably best to leave these for later.

For her first time in bondage, stay away from metal restraints. You might be able to get away with fuzzy handcuffs, but it's better to go with something else. You don't want to be fumbling for your keys when your lady is screaming out her safe-word. And you can't cut her out of a pair of handcuffs if something goes badly wrong. Plenty of experienced bdsm players (including yours truly) never use metal bondage at all for precisely that reason.

Gags
Women who've never tried bondage before are extremely intimidated by gags, and rightly so. For one they're dangerous, and for another they can be quite a strain on the jaw. There are few things that can freak a bondage virgin out more than being gagged. You really want her first experience with bondage to be as loving, supportive, and positive as possible, so it's probably better to save the gag for next time.

However, if you do want to use gags in your bdsm play, there are some ways to go about it. First, start small. Use a simple cleave-gag (with no mouth stuffing) for her first time with a gag. It's the safest possible gag you can use and the least likely to scare her. (A tape-gag is also quite safe and comfortable, but you shouldn't use it unless you're lucky enough to have an adventurous girlfriend.) Second, let her get used to it. Gags put a serious strain on the jaw muscles, so don't start pushing her to try a 3-inch ballgag right away. Let her build up a tolerance for smaller gags before you move on to the huge gob-stoppers.

A friend of mine once shared with me that when he introduced his wife to a gag he encouraged her to wear the gag around the house, unbound and able to spit it out at any time. It not only helped her muscles become accustom to the strain, it helped make the gag seem less intimidating.

General safety
Keep the following items close at hand for every bondage session:
- A knife or, preferably, EMT scissors to cut her out of her bondage should the worst occur.
- Lotion, ointment, or other topical pain relievers (see After-care).
- A first-aid kit.
- If you do use handcuffs, several sets of spare keys. Spare keys are like cowbell. You need moar of it. No exceptions.

Keep a close eye on your sub. If at ANY time she becomes non-responsive, get her out of bondage immediately.

結果 (中文) 1:

材料如果你的妻子或女友是处女的束缚，非常仔细地选择你的材料。你想要东西，她第一次而且一样柔软和尽可能轻。因此最佳的选择是什么蚕丝制成。如果你没有丝绸或类似的东西，棉花可能是你下一个最好的选择。棉花是柔软，透气性好便宜 （和它不会让在五金商店收银员给你有趣的样子）。麻绳上是安全的当使用得当，但这也会擦伤。如果你坚持使用大麻或其他粗糙的材料，一定要只为她第一次使用松散联系。皮革和橡胶产品可以非常安全和舒适，但他们也是第一个计时器的令人生畏。或许最好离开这些以后。她第一次的束缚，远离金属的限制。你也许能够侥幸逃脱模糊手铐，但它是更好地去别的东西。你不想摸找你的钥匙，当你的女人尖叫着她安全词。你不能减少她出一副手铐，如果发生严重的错误。很多有经验的 bdsm 参与者 （包括你真正） 正是由于这个原因就永远不会使用金属束缚在。堵嘴糖胺聚糖，并正确地的女人从来没打过役前的得极其害怕所以。一个它们的危险，和另一个他们可以相当应变的下巴。有几件事情，可以吓出更多比被捆绑束缚处女。你真的想要像爱，支持，和积极的态度，所以很可能会更好，为下一次保存的插科打诨的束缚她第一次体验。然而，如果你想要在你 bdsm 游戏中使用的插科打诨，有一些方式去做。首先，启动小。她第一次以插科打诨使用简单劈开-氨基多糖 （没有嘴填料）。它是最安全的可能堵嘴，你可以使用和最不容易把她吓得。（磁带插科打诨也是非常安全和舒适，但你不应该使用它，除非你足够幸运，有冒险精神的女朋友）。第二，让她习惯它。堵嘴放下巴肌肉，所以不要开始推她马上尝试 3 英寸 ballgag 沉重的负担。让她建立一个容忍的小笑话之前你前进到巨大的采空区塞子。我的一个朋友曾与我分享，当他介绍他的妻子给插科打诨他鼓励她穿 gag 在家里，未绑定，并且能够在任何时候把它吐出来。它不仅帮助她的肌肉变得习惯于应变，它有助于使看起来不那么令人生畏的插科打诨。一般安全为每个束缚会话在手边保持下列项目 ︰-刀或，最好是，EMT 剪刀将她从她的羁绊应该最坏的情况发生。-洗剂、 软膏或其他外用止痛药 （见善后）。-一个急救包。-如果您使用手铐，几套备用的钥匙。备用钥匙就像铃。你需要它的莫瓦尔。没有例外。密切留意你的分上。如果在任何时候她变得无响应，马上她摆脱束缚。

結果 (中文) 3:

材料如果你的妻子或女友是一个处女，你的材料非常小心。你想让事情尽可能柔和，尽可能地让她第一次。因此，最好的选择是丝绸做的任何事情。如果你没有丝绸或类似的东西，棉花可能是你下一个最好的赌注。棉质柔软，透气，价格便宜（在五金店的收银员不会给你有趣的表情）。大麻绳索是安全时，明智地使用，但它也磨破。如果你使用大麻或其他粗糙的材料，一定要使用松散的关系，她第一次。皮革和橡胶制品可以是相当安全和舒适，但他们也有一个第一定时器恐吓。可能最好离开这些。为她第一次在束缚中，远离金属束缚。你可以摆脱模糊的手铐，但它是更好地去做其他的事情。你不想被摸了你的钥匙在你太太尖叫她安全的话。你不能把她从一副手铐如果出现严重错误。经验丰富的BDSM的玩家很多（包括我）没有使用金属束缚根本就是这个原因。噱头他从来没有试图束缚前妇女是非常害怕的噱头，这样做是正确的。对于一个他们是危险的，对另一个他们可以是相当的压力，在下巴。有几件事，可以狂束缚处女超过被塞住。你真的想让她第一次体验到被束缚的爱，支持，和积极的可能，所以它可能是更好的保存器下次。然而，如果你想在你的BDSM玩用插科打诨，有去了解它的一些方法。首先，开始小。用一个简单的切割GAG（无口填料）她第一次以插科打诨。这是你可以使用的最有可能把她安全的可能的恶作剧。（磁带插科打诨也很安全和舒适，但你不应该使用它，除非你很幸运有一个冒险的女朋友。）其次，让她习惯了。包放在下巴肌肉严重变形，所以不要开始推她去尝试吧ballgag 3。让她建立了一个小笑话宽容才能进入到巨大的采空区塞。我的一个朋友曾经告诉我，当他介绍他的妻子恶作剧他鼓励她穿插科打诨的房子周围，松散的和能够吐出来在任何时间。它不仅帮助她的肌肉变得习惯于紧张，它有助于使gag似乎不那么吓人。一般安全为每一个束缚会话保留下列项目：-刀或，优选的是，EMT的剪刀剪了她的束缚应该是发生最坏的情况。洗剂、软膏、或其他外用止痛药（见护理后）。急救包。如果你使用手铐，几套备用的钥匙。备用钥匙像铃铛。你需要MOAR它。没有例外。密切关注你的章，如果在任何时候她变得不敏感，使她摆脱束缚立即。