A group of graduates, highly established in their career, got together to visit their old university lecturer. They were all excited because they hadn’t seen each other for a long time.
Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life. The lecturer listened carefully but didn’t say much. Offering his guests coffee, the lecturer went to the the and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups: porcelain, plastic, glass, some plain-looking and some expensive and very beautiful, telling them to help themselves to hot coffee. They did so and got a cup of coffee by themselves.
When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand , the lecturer said, “As you noticed,most of you took up the nice-looking, expensive cups ,leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problem and stress. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup. But you consciously went for the better cups and are eyeing each other’s cups.”