The effects of divine charity on naturally acquired forbearance, the kind that abides in ordinary friendships, reproduce this pattern. In some cases, the social relationship in question begins as something other than a friendship. The parties to it might be colleagues, fellow citizens, or neighbors on the block, but the point is that mutual well-wishing is not one of the acts normally required by the relationship and desire for union is not ordinarily one of its ends.40 But then, as we know, a friendship can be added to these other relationships and whatever measure of tolerance abides in them can be ordered by friendship’s love to love’s final ends.