It’s clear, therefore, that convers

It’s clear, therefore, that conversations are much more than a way to get from point A to point B. They are a tangled knot of messages, spoken and unspoken, fumbling toward different destinations at once, sometimes at each other’s expense. “A lot of communication is more subtle than ‘to tell or not to tell,’” Caughlin explains. “Disclosing and avoiding is not all or nothing.” In a study of adult children with a parent who had suffered from lung cancer, he found that the healthiest way families dealt with competing task, identity, and relationship goals was to be generally open while avoiding a few specific topics. Families who managed this balancing act saw their openness as a positive coping strategy and employed tactful avoidance (e.g., not mentioning a father’s smoking history, which likely led to his lung cancer diagnosis) without acknowledging that it contradicted their rosy family standard of honesty. It’s as if their collective self-image as an “open” family papered over the awkwardness of leaving some topics alone.

結果 (中文) 1:

很明显，因此，对话是更多比的方式去从 A 点到 b 点。他们是邮件，口语纠结的结和潜、 摸索往不同的目的地一次，有时相互对视的费用。"大量的通信比 '说或者不说' 更微妙，"Caughlin 解释道。"披露和避免并非全部或什么。"成年子女与父母患肺癌的研究，他发现最健康的方式处理竞争的任务、 身份和关系目标的家庭是要一般开放，同时避免几个特定的主题。管理这种平衡的家庭看到他们开放作为一项积极的应对战略和雇用委婉回避 （例如，没有提及父亲吸烟可能导致他肺癌诊断的历史） 而不承认它反驳他们的诚实性美好家庭标准。就好像他们集体的自我形象，作为一个"开放的"家庭掩盖了独自一人离开一些话题的尴尬。

結果 (中文) 3:

很明显，因此，谈话是远远超过一个的方式从A点到B点。他们是一个复杂的结的信息，可以对不同的目的地，摸索一次，有时在对方的费用。“很多交流比更微妙的告诉或不告诉，”考夫林解释。“披露和避免不全或无。“在成年子女与父母患有肺癌的研究，他发现，健康的家庭处理竞争任务，身份，和目标的关系是普遍开放的同时避免一些特定的主题。谁管理这个平衡家庭看到他们的开放的积极的应对策略，并采用委婉的回避（如，不提父亲的吸烟史  LED，这可能对他的肺癌诊断）不承认其矛盾的玫瑰家族的诚实标准。就好像他们的集体形象作为一个“开放”的家庭掩盖了一些尴尬话题独自离开。