When this happens, “charity commands each act of another friendship, even as the art which is about the end commands the art which is about the means.” But this means that “the very act of loving someone because he is akin or connected with us, or because he is a fellow-countryman or for any like reason that is referable to the end of charity, can be commanded by charity, so that, out of charity both eliciting and commanding, we love in more ways those who are more nearly connected with us” (57"11-11.26.7). When natural forbearance animates natural friendships, we can assume that charity will multiply its reasons for acting in much the same way. The objectionable differences of the beloved will be endured, not simply for the sake of the natural friendship already shared, but also for the sake of fellowship with God that, by grace, might be shared with the beloved. And presumably the range of that forbearance transformed by grace will increase, such that things once unbearable according to the norms of the natural friendship are now endured for the sake of that same divine fellowship.