We should feel grateful in our hear

We should feel grateful in our heart when we accept anything others sacrifice for us. However，we often unconsciously do the opposite, which may not be regarded as returning kindness with ingratitude, but have the equal power to harm each other. In particular, the closer the relationship is, the more determined we are.

Jennifer, my friend Randy9 s mother，is already over 70， poor eyesight and weak legs. But due to her character, she chose to live alone in the suburbs. No matter how busily Randy works, he would go there to visit her once or twice every week.

That day as soon as he parked his car, Randy smelt the delicious smell of meat coming from her mother’s house. His mother said, "Your birthday is coming next week, so Pm preparing pork trotters (猪蹄）for you!” Seeing the steaming delicious trotters* he couldn’t help complaining,," I don’t like these things at all, so fatty."

On his way back, he called me, saying that he felt sorry. In fact, he longed to thank his mother and eat up that bowl of trotters. But he felt sorry that it took her too much time and energy. If he didn’t stop her strictly, he was afraid the same thing would continue. He would rather not eat trotters any more than have his mother overwork. I understand how he felt exactly. Each of us has done like that. Because of feeling sorry for others，sacrifice, we purposely harden our heart against accepting others，favor and even criticize them severely in order to frighten their goodness away and make them never do that again.

This method may work, but it will hurt each other’s feelings. It’s not wrong logically, but we always neglect another sound deep in our heart： because we’re afraid we can’t repay them, we're unwilling to shoulder others’ goodness. So we reduce its value and refuse it severely. But to destroy others，goodness is also to deny you.

結果 (中文) 1:

当我们接受他人牺牲我们的任何东西，我们应该感到感激在我们心中。然而，我们经常不自觉地反着做，这不可能视为返回以怨报德，但有平等权伤害对方。特别是，越接近的关系就是更加坚定我们。珍妮，我的朋友 Randy9 s 的母亲，已经是超过 70，可怜的视力和弱的双腿。但由于她的性格，她选择了独自一人住在郊区。不管怎么忙着兰迪工作，他会去看她每周一次或两次。那天他停在他的车，兰迪闻到来自她母亲的房子的肉的香味。他的母亲说，"你的生日就要到下个星期，所以下午为你准备猪肉猪蹄 (猪蹄)!"看到热气腾腾的美味猪蹄 * 他忍不住抱怨，"我根本不喜欢这些东西，所以脂肪."在回来的路上，他给我打电话，说他感到难过。事实上，他渴望感谢他的母亲和吃起来那碗猪蹄。但他却感到难过，她花了太多的时间和精力。如果他没有严格阻止她，他怕同样的事情将会继续。他宁愿不比有他过度劳累的母亲吃猪蹄。我理解他的感受到底。我们每个人都有做那样。由于为他人感到抱歉，牺牲，故意使我们反对接受别人的心刚硬，青睐，甚至批评他们严重，吓走了他们的善良，要他们永远不会再那样做了。This method may work, but it will hurt each other’s feelings. It’s not wrong logically, but we always neglect another sound deep in our heart： because we’re afraid we can’t repay them, we're unwilling to shoulder others’ goodness. So we reduce its value and refuse it severely. But to destroy others，goodness is also to deny you.

結果 (中文) 3:

当我们接受别人为我们牺牲的东西时，我们应该心存感激。然而，我们常常不自觉地做相反的，它可能不被视为回归仁慈忘恩负义，但要伤害彼此平等权。特别是，更紧密的关系，更加坚定了我们。

珍妮佛，我的朋友randy9的母亲，已经超过70，视力不好和腿弱。但由于她的性格，她选择独自生活在郊区。无论多么忙兰迪的作品，他会去看望她一次或两次每星期。

那天当他把车停，兰迪闻到香味的肉来自她母亲的房子。他的母亲说，“你的生日快到了下一周，所以下午准备德式咸猪手（猪蹄）你！“看到热气腾腾的美味猪蹄*他忍不住抱怨，“我不喜欢这些东西，所以脂肪。”

在回来的路上，他打电话给我，说他感到抱歉。事实上，他很想感谢他的母亲吃了那碗猪蹄。但他感到遗憾的是，她花了太多的时间和精力。如果他没有严格地阻止她，他害怕同样的事情会继续下去。他宁愿不吃猪蹄比他母亲劳累过度。我明白他是怎样的感觉。我们每个人都这样做。因为同情别人，牺牲，我们故意使我们的心不接受别人，甚至批评他们，为了吓唬他们的善良，使他们永远不会做那一次，但它会伤害彼此的感情。这不是错误的逻辑，但我们总是忽略了另一个声音在我们的内心深处：因为我们害怕我们不能报答他们，我们不愿意承担别人的善良。因此，我们减少它的价值，并拒绝它。但要摧毁他人，善良也是为了否定你。