Withholder/Exploder—this partner withholds feelings until they are ready to explode. This communicator might build anger over a long enough time to render the relationship irreparable. For example, Cynthia was angry with Ted having poker parties at their house and never cleaning up afterwards. She also felt that she was treated like a maid in her marriage. Cynthia once referred to herself as a “modern day Cinderella.” Rather than express these feelings, however, Cynthia dutifully complied with Ted’s demands, until one day she asked for a divorce. Ted said he felt blindsided, but truth be told he was not paying attention.