Let go of the need to control others
Respect the mourner to have own way to grieve
Ritualize the loss in a personally significant way
Find creative ways to memorialize loss
Allow yourself to change
Strive to enlarge yourself in experience of loss
Harvest the legacy of the loss
Reevaluate your life priorities and search for growth opportunity
Center in your spiritual convictions
Use the loss as an opportunity to review and renew belief