It was already half past seven and

It was already half past seven and I was running late again for the dinner appointment with my wife, Eleanor. We had to meet at the restaurant at seven o'clock. I felt a little uneasy, but to my , I had a good excuse: A business meeting had and I'd wasted no time getting to the dinner.

When I arrived at the , I apologized and told Eleanor I didn't mean to be late. She screamed, "You never mean to." Well, I tell she was angry. "I'm sorry but it was not ," I said. Then I told her about the business meeting. , my explanation seemed to make things worse, which started to drive mad as well.

Several weeks later, when I the situation to my friend Ken Hardy, he smiled, "You a classic mistake. You're stuck your own way of thinking. You didn't to be late. But that's not the point. What is in your communication is how your lateness affected Eleanor." He pointed out that I focused on the intention Eleanor focused on the result. Thus, of us felt misunderstood and crazy.

Thinking more about Ken's words, I recognized the root cause of such disagreement. It's the result of the action that really . I should have started the conversation by expressing my actions affected Eleanor and the discussions about my intention for later, much later and even never.

Later on, after talking to Eleanor and really her experience of the results of my lateness, I've managed to be on time a lot more frequently.

結果 (中文) 1:

这已经是 7:30 上午和我迟到再次为晚餐约会与我的妻子埃莉诺。我们不得不在 7 上午在餐馆见面。有点不安，但对我，我有一个好的借口: 商务会议已经和我没有浪费时间吃饭。当我到达，道歉，并告诉埃莉诺，我不是故意要迟到了。她尖叫着，你永远不会说到。好吧，我告诉她生气了。"我很抱歉，但它不是，"我说。然后我告诉她关于商务会议。我的解释似乎使事情更糟，开始发疯一样好。几个星期以后，当我的情况给我的朋友肯哈代，他笑了笑，"你一个典型错误。你坚持你自己的思维方式。你没有迟到。但那不是重点。什么是在你的沟通是你的迟到是如何影响埃莉诺。他指出，我专注于埃莉诺 · 注重结果的意图。因此，我们感到被误解和疯狂。我思考更多关于肯的词语，认识到这种分歧的根本原因。它是行动的结果，真的。我应该开始对话，表达我的行为可影响埃莉诺，我打算讨论后，很久以后和甚至永远不会。后来跟埃莉诺和真正的我的迟到结果她经验谈话后，我已经设法准时到了很多更加频繁地。

結果 (中文) 3:

这已经是半过去七了，我又晚了一次又一次的晚餐约会，我的妻子，埃利诺。我们必须在七点在餐厅见面。我感到有点不安，但对我而言，我有一个很好的借口：一个商务会议，我会浪费时间去吃饭。她尖叫，“你不想说，”我告诉她，她很生气。”我很抱歉，但不是，“我说。然后我告诉她关于业务会议。，我的解释似乎使事情变得更糟，这开始是疯狂的，而几个星期后，当我的情况给我的朋友Ken，他笑了，“你是一个典型的错误。你陷入了自己的思维方式。你没来晚。但这不是重点。在你的沟通是如何影响你的迟到，埃利诺。”他指出，我专注的意图埃利诺关注结果。因此，我们觉得被误解和疯狂的想法更多关于肯的话，我承认这种分歧的根本原因。这是真正的行动的结果。我要表达我的行为影响了埃利诺和我的意图的讨论后开始交谈，后来甚至没有。

之后，和埃利诺说话，她真正的感受我迟到的结果后，我设法准时更频繁。