Why do we go wrong about our friends-or our enemies? Sometimes what people say hides their real meaning.And if we don’t really listen,we miss the feeling behind the words.Suppose someone tells you.‘‘you’re a lucky dog”.Is he really on your side? if he says.“You’re a lucky guy”or“You’re a lucky gal”.That’s being friendly.But“lucky dog”?There’s a bit of envy in those words Maybe he doesn’t see it himself.But bringing in the‘‘dog”bit puts you down a little.What he may be saying is that he doesn’t think you deserve your luck.