If you took the strengths of others

If you took the strengths of others and compared them to your weaknesses, would this make you feel good? The funny thing is that this is what most of us do at one time or another—and some of us do it pretty often. It's a sure-fire recipe for a drop in self-confidence and for unhappiness. So how can we stop comparing ourselves with others? Here are some tips I've found useful.
Awareness.
Most often we do these social comparisons without realizing we're doing it. It's a natural act, I suppose. So the solution is to become aware. If you focus on these thoughts for a few days, it will become much easier with practice, and soon it'll be hard not to notice.
Stop yourself.
Once you realize you're making these comparisons, stop yourself. Don't feel bad—just admit the thought, and gently change the focus.
Count your blessings.
Focus on what you do have, and on what you are already blessed with. Count what you have, not what you don't have. Think about how lucky you are to have what you have, to have the people in your life who care about you. If you always want what others have, you will never have enough. You will always want more. That's an endless cycle, and it will never lead to happiness. Instead, learn to realize that what you have is already enough.
Focus on your strengths.
Instead of looking at your weaknesses, ask yourself what your strengths are. Be proud of them. Work on using them to your best advantage.
No one is perfect—we all know that. But we seem to feel bad when we don't reach perfection. You aren't perfect and you never will be. Keep trying to improve, but don't think you'll ever be the "perfect person". If you realize that imperfection is what makes you who you are, you are already perfect.

結果 (中文) 1:

如果你拿别人的长处，和他们相比你的弱点，这会使你感觉好吗?有趣的是，这是什么我们大多数人做在一次或另一种 — — 和我们有些人相当经常做它。它是与人攀比的自信心下降和不快乐。我们如何能阻止自己与他人比较?这里有一些我发现有用的提示。认识。我们最经常做这些社会比较没有意识到我们正在做它。它是一种自然的行为，我想。所以解决办法是意识。如果你专注于这些思考了几天，它将变得更加容易与实践，并很快就会不难注意到。停止你自己。一旦你意识到你让这些比较，阻止自己。不要难过 — — 只是承认思想，轻轻地改变焦点。细数你的祷告。专注于你做了什么，和你已经拥有。数数你有什么，不是你没有。想你是多么的幸运有什么你拥有的你生活中的人，关心你的人。如果你总是想要别人有什么，你将永远不会有足够。你总是会想要更多。这就是无休止的循环，和它将永远不会导致幸福。相反，学习认识到，你有什么是已经足够。专注于你的长处。不看你的弱点，只是问问你自己你的长处是什么。是为他们感到骄傲。让他们给你最好的优势。No one is perfect—we all know that. But we seem to feel bad when we don't reach perfection. You aren't perfect and you never will be. Keep trying to improve, but don't think you'll ever be the "perfect person". If you realize that imperfection is what makes you who you are, you are already perfect.

結果 (中文) 3:

如果你把别人的长处和你的弱点相比，这会让你感觉好吗？有趣的是，这是我们大多数人做的一次或另一个，我们中的一些人经常做这件事。这是一个肯定火配方的下降，在自信和不快乐。那么我们怎么才能停止与他人比较呢？以下是我发现有用的技巧。大多数时候，我们做这些社会比较，而不知道我们正在做的。这是一个自然的行为，我想。所以解决的办法就是要变得意识到。如果你专注于这些想法的几天，它会变得更容易与实践，并很快就很难不通知。不要觉得不好只是承认的思想，然后轻轻地改变你的焦点，计算你的祝福，专注于你所拥有的，以及你已经拥有的。计算你所拥有的，而不是你没有的。想想你是多么幸运，有你有什么，有人在你的生活中关心你。如果你总是想要别人拥有的东西，你永远都不会拥有的。你将永远想要更多。这是一个无休止的循环，它永远不会带来幸福。相反，要学会去了解你所拥有的已经足够了，你要专注于你的强项，而不是看你的弱点，问问自己你的强项是什么。为他们感到骄傲。用它们来做你的最佳利益，没有人是完美的，我们都知道。但当我们没有达到完美的时候，我们似乎感觉不好。你不是完美的，你永远不会。不断努力改进，但不要认为你永远是“完美的人”。如果你意识到不完美是什么让你成为你的人，你就已经完美了。