Wow Chen Li you have me wrong. I don't have a problem with alcohol. My father was an alcoholic and as a kid I spent a lot of my childhood in bars trying to help him. I'm keenly aware of what alcohol can do to you. In the course of a month I might have two Eggnogs with a little bit of Rum. I don't hang out with people who drink, do drugs or smoke. None of my friends drink. This should not be a problem for us.
As far as the debt goes this shouldn't be a problem for us either. The only reason I asked you if about your income was, I really can't afford to pay your expenses. I have a very good situation here in Harrington with a good future. Although I have not been in the house very long, I've enjoyed it very much. Since I've been back I've spent a lot of time thinking about how we would do things together and I would not like to see that opportunity not go away. I've spent a lot of money just recently on moving expenses. That should be understandable for you. I have a plan which requires being frugal which shouldn't be a problem for me. I have emergency savings in case something happens.
In terms of the language difference, that comes with the territory wouldn't you say. You're not going to find someone more willing and committed to learning your language and culture then me. I very much want the opportunity to show you what my life. Give me a chance. I know we can work this out. I'm committed to making you happy.
I wish I could be there to help you get well. It sounds to me like you have a lot on your plate at the moment and our relationship should be part of your burden. Please hold off on your decision until things settle down for you and we can talk.
Love & Prayers,
Dale