In both of these examples, it’s the antecedent friendship that generates the obligation to endure what the merely tolerant would not, and it’s friendship’s forbearance that fulfills love5s obligations when differences like these divide. But we also know of cases where no such friendship exits, no such obligation,and where love’s endurance comes nevertheless, where it arrives as grace. No friendship unites Priam and Achilles; indeed they are enemies. Achilles has killed Hector, Priam^ son, but only after Hector has killed Patroclus,Achilles’s friend. And yet when they grieve together in the final chapter of the Iliad, surely it’s forbearance that enables them to put aside their anger, endure each other’s company,share each other’s sorrow, and hope for some measure of reconciliation—not a measure that puts an end to all enmity but one that allows a grief-stricken father to bury his son and a friend to purge rage from his mourning. And surely Priam approaches Achilles’s camp with something like faith in this possibility, with hope for its reality.18