In our comparison-soaked culture, i

In our comparison-soaked culture, it’s hard to avoid slipping into “Why can’t I?” mode. When one of my colleagues who I think is not better than me published a new book, I couldn’t help complaining how unachievable it seemed to me and what bad luck I had. Negative feelings like this made life dark for us. 36 Here’s what I learned:
Don’t compare your insides to someone else’s outsides.
The first time I heard this excellent advice, I was suffering from terrible envy. My professor’s warning shocked me that “You have no idea what it took for them to get there”. Don’t just owe it to pure luck. 37 ”
She was absolutely right, yet it’s much easier to envy what they’ve got than it is to ask the serious question; what are they modeling for me? What have they done to get where they are today? 38
Transform comparison into celebration.
Admiration and envy are responses pointing us toward what we value most. 39 If you notice yourself admiring people who take creative risks, bring your full attention to the part of you wants to be braver.
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Next time you catch yourself admiring or envying someone’s success, take a moment to consider: what qualities in them inspire me? Where do I presently display these qualities? Remember the light we see in others can help we see our own.
A. Use the success of others as a mirror.
B. Learn to appreciate others' shining points
C. How to get rid of the harmful effects of comparison needs exploring.
D. However, there is no doubt that good luck can't be ignored.
E. Instead, you should fad out what's really going on behind the scenes
F. And once we become aware of what we value, we are much better positioned to create a richly satisfying life
G. When we reflect on these questions, we shift immediately out of comparison mode and turn inwards.

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在我们比较浸泡的文化，这是很难避免陷入“为什么我不能？”模式。当我的一个同事，我想是不是比我出版了一本新书，我忍不住抱怨无法实现的对我来说，我有什么坏运气。这样的负面情绪使我们的生活变得黑暗。36这里是我学到的东西：不要拿你的内心和别人的内心。我第一次听到这个很好的建议，我受到了可怕的嫉妒。我的教授的警告震惊了我，“你不知道他们需要什么来那里”。不要只是把它归功于纯粹的运气。37“她是绝对正确的，但它更容易羡慕他们所拥有的比它是问严肃的问题，他们对我的造型是什么？他们做了什么，以获得他们今天的地方？三十八庆祝转换比较。羡慕和嫉妒是指我们指向我们最珍视的东西。39如果你发现自己欣赏的人的创造性的风险，把你的注意力到你的一部分，要勇敢。四十下次你发现自己羡慕或嫉妒别人的成功，花一点时间来考虑：在他们的品质激励着我？我现在在哪里显示这些素质？记住我们在别人看到的光可以帮助我们看到我们自己的。使用别人的成功作为一面镜子。学会欣赏别人的闪光点C.如何摆脱比较需要探索的有害影响。然而，毫无疑问，好运是不可忽视的。相反，你应该时尚，什么是真正发生在幕后一旦我们意识到我们的价值，我们就有了更好的定位，创造出丰富令人满意的生活G.当我们反思这些问题，我们立刻转变了比较模式和向内转。