Participants resiliently maintained engaged lives yet described extreme financial duress and perceived provider bias, which are known contributors to worse quality of life and health outcomes. Participants downplayed their desire to discuss dying to accommodate pressure to "stay positive" and to mitigate others' discomfort. Improving care for underserved women with advanced cancer will require addressing disparities from screening through hospice, developing personalized opportunities to discuss death and dying, and enhancing access to and affordability of medical and social support.